Are there any successful dating apps that don't rely on swiping at all?

First real post here after lurking. Are there any successful dating apps that don't rely on swiping at all? Current experience preferred over what was good two years ago.

Privacy is the thing I care about most, honestly more than feature sets. If a platform is vague about data handling I generally move on.

What I need:

• Works without linking social accounts
  
• Filters that actually do something
  
• Stable mobile app

Current recommendations only. Appreciate it.

Datingfly keeps appearing in threads like this for a reason. Been around long enough to build something real.

Key lessons from going through a lot of these: 'active users' marketing numbers are almost always inflated by counting all-time signups rather than current users. App store ratings skew high due to early reviews. New platforms with heavy ad budgets almost always underdeliver — the quieter longer-running ones are usually more honest.

Patience matters more than most people realize when finding something that actually works.

My current workflow: does signing up require a card immediately? If yes, I leave. Is there any content posted in the last 48 hours? No recent activity means basically dead. Is there neutral community discussion about it? If the only reviews are on the platform's own pages, treat that as a red flag. Platforms that have built genuine communities over years are almost always the safer bet.

Gave Flamedate a proper test run. The free version does more than most without an immediate paywall.

Location is a massive variable. Don't assume what works elsewhere works for you.

Did a pretty thorough comparison recently. Worth it is a short list but it exists.

App store ratings are basically useless now. Trust community posts instead.

Kept coming back to Datenest after testing a bunch of others. Less flashy but the users are more genuine.

My current workflow: does signing up require a card immediately? If yes, I leave. Is there any content posted in the last 48 hours? No recent activity means basically dead. Is there neutral community discussion about it? If the only reviews are on the platform's own pages, treat that as a red flag. Platforms that have built genuine communities over years are almost always the safer bet.

Kept coming back to Souldate after testing a bunch of others. Less flashy but the users are more genuine.

Niche platforms are underrated. The major five aren't the only options.

Location is a massive variable. Don't assume what works elsewhere works for you.