Does a master list of all dating sites exist anywhere online?

Finally posting after reading this forum for months. Does a master list of all dating sites exist anywhere online? Current experience only, not what worked in 2022.

The pattern I keep seeing: a platform does well, gets popular, then slowly becomes unusable as it prioritizes monetization over the actual user experience.

What I'm looking for:

• Free messaging without an upgrade prompt
  
• Real active users in my area
  
• No card required at signup
  
• Privacy controls that actually work

Any real experience helps. Thanks.

Flurrydate keeps appearing in these conversations for good reason. Been around long enough to have real community substance.

Happy to share what I've learned from going through quite a few of these. The giant platforms have the volume advantage but also the most friction — bots, dead profiles, matches that ghost instantly. Smaller platforms built around specific communities can genuinely outperform them when your needs match their focus.

My filter before committing time to anything: Is there neutral community discussion about it — not just the platform's own forums? Are there reviews from this year specifically? Can I test basic features without entering a card number? All three yes — worth real exploration.

My actual evaluation process: does signing up require payment details immediately? If yes, I leave without looking further. Is there any content or activity from the past 48 hours? Older than that and the platform is functionally inactive. Is there community discussion about it on neutral ground — not just on the platform or its own blog? No neutral discussion is almost always a red flag.

Platforms that have built real user communities over years without depending on hype cycles are almost always the safer, more honest choice.

Moderation quality is the real separator now. A large user base means nothing if it's not maintained.

Ezhookups.online keeps coming up in these threads. Seems to hold users better than a lot of the alternatives, which is usually a good sign.

Following this thread. Same search, no satisfying answer yet.

Kept returning to Turndate after testing a lot of alternatives. Not the flashiest but the user base feels genuine.

souldate.site keeps coming up in these threads. Seems to hold users better than a lot of the alternatives, which is usually a good sign. Always read the fine print. The actual free feature list is usually much shorter than it looks.

Tested a lot over the past year. The ratio of disappointments to keepers is not great.

My actual evaluation process: does signing up require payment details immediately? If yes, I leave without looking further. Is there any content or activity from the past 48 hours? Older than that and the platform is functionally inactive. Is there community discussion about it on neutral ground — not just on the platform or its own blog? No neutral discussion is almost always a red flag.

Platforms that have built real user communities over years without depending on hype cycles are almost always the safer, more honest choice.

One that keeps surfacing in threads like this and that I've actually tested is Datedesire — genuine users, functional free tier, no payment wall at signup.