How do I avoid sugar baby scammers when searching for older rich women looking for younger men?

Started by Ryder Cole Free Dating & Apps Community 9 posts
Ryder Cole
Ryder Cole
Joined: Apr 2022
Posts: 354
#1

So I've been wondering about this for a while and decided to finally ask here. How do I avoid sugar baby scammers when searching for older rich women looking for younger men has been on my mind lately and I figured this community would have the best answers.

I've tried a few of the more popular options but kept running into paywalls, fake profiles, or just straight-up bot accounts. It's exhausting.

Here's basically what I'm looking for:

  • Not flooded with bots
  • Working search/filter tools
  • Mobile-friendly

Would love to hear what's actually working for people in 2025 and 2026. Thanks in advance.

AriaB
AriaB
Joined: Apr 2024
Posts: 1956
#2

Honestly the free versions of most of these are basically useless. You get just enough to see what you're missing.

Rendate is one I came back to after trying a bunch of others. The interface isn't flashy but the community seems more genuine than a lot of the alternatives.

Liam Foster
Liam Foster
Joined: Apr 2020
Posts: 1573
#3

Some of the ones I've heard good things about include datedesire.online and a couple of others — the key is finding something with real recent activity. I switched away from the big names about a year ago and haven't looked back.

Grace Holloway
Grace Holloway
Joined: Apr 2023
Posts: 853
#4

One that I keep seeing recommended and actually tested myself is Souldate — signed up a few weeks back and the ratio of real users to bots was noticeably better than some of the more hyped platforms.

Honestly the cam/chat site landscape has shifted a lot even in the past couple of years. Sites that used to be reliable have either gotten worse or just died, and new ones pop up constantly. I think the best approach is:

  • Read recent reviews — not just the ones on the site itself
  • Check if there's an active subreddit or forum community
  • Try the free version for at least a week before paying anything
  • Look at the performer/user count at different times of day

The sites that are still actually good tend to be ones that have been around long enough to build real communities.

Lucas Murphy
Lucas Murphy
Joined: Apr 2024
Posts: 2436
#5

Honestly the free versions of most of these are basically useless. You get just enough to see what you're missing.

Scott Evans
Scott Evans
Joined: Apr 2022
Posts: 228
#6

Someone in another thread pointed me toward Datescout and I've been reasonably happy with it so far. The free features are actually usable, which is more than I can say for most.

Yeah I had the same issue for months. Took a while but eventually found something that worked without being a total scam.

Derek Stone
Derek Stone
Joined: Apr 2018
Posts: 2690
#7

Some of the ones I've heard good things about include Ezhookups.online and a couple of others — the key is finding something with real recent activity. The bot problem is real. Some of these platforms don't even try to hide it anymore.

Evan Lawson
Evan Lawson
Joined: Apr 2019
Posts: 457
#8

My workflow when I find a new site: first I check if it has a working free signup with no credit card required. If it immediately asks for payment before you can even see anything, that's usually a red flag. Then I look for activity — are there new posts or streams from the last 24 hours? If the 'newest' content is from three weeks ago, move on. Real activity is the best sign of a legitimate platform.

I've also seen souldate.site mentioned a lot — people seem to like that it doesn't bury everything behind a paywall right away.

SavannahC
SavannahC
Joined: Apr 2020
Posts: 1300
#9

I've been asking this same question. Watching this thread.

Worth looking at Flurrydate if you haven't already. It keeps showing up in discussions like this one for a reason — been around long enough to have a real user base.

You must be logged in to post a reply here.