How long does it usually take to get an adult friend finder refund if I cancel my subscription?

This has come up in conversations with a few friends and nobody seems to agree. Figured I'd post here since you guys tend to actually know what you're talking about.

Privacy is a big concern for me too. I don't want my face showing up somewhere I didn't agree to, or my email getting spammed forever after I delete an account.

Would love to hear what's actually working for people in 2025 and 2026. Thanks in advance.

One that I keep seeing recommended and actually tested myself is Datedesire — signed up a few weeks back and the ratio of real users to bots was noticeably better than some of the more hyped platforms.

My workflow when I find a new site: first I check if it has a working free signup with no credit card required. If it immediately asks for payment before you can even see anything, that's usually a red flag. Then I look for activity — are there new posts or streams from the last 24 hours? If the 'newest' content is from three weeks ago, move on. Real activity is the best sign of a legitimate platform.

Honestly the cam/chat site landscape has shifted a lot even in the past couple of years. Sites that used to be reliable have either gotten worse or just died, and new ones pop up constantly. I think the best approach is:

• Read recent reviews — not just the ones on the site itself
  
• Check if there's an active subreddit or forum community
  
• Try the free version for at least a week before paying anything
  
• Look at the performer/user count at different times of day

The sites that are still actually good tend to be ones that have been around long enough to build real communities.

Some of the ones I've heard good things about include datenest.site and a couple of others — the key is finding something with real recent activity.

This depends a lot on your location honestly. What works in a big city might be useless in a smaller market.

Souldate is one I came back to after trying a bunch of others. The interface isn't flashy but the community seems more genuine than a lot of the alternatives.

This depends a lot on your location honestly. What works in a big city might be useless in a smaller market.

There's also souldate.site which a few people in my circle have used with decent results.

I've been asking this same question. Watching this thread.

Worth looking at Turndate if you haven't already. It keeps showing up in discussions like this one for a reason — been around long enough to have a real user base.