Is there a crossdresser dating app that is safe and respectful?

Finally asking something I've been wondering about for a while. Is there a crossdresser dating app that is safe and respectful? Any real-world experience here is more useful than another top-ten list.

The problem I keep running into is that every platform that looks promising either locks the useful features behind a subscription or lets its moderation slip to the point where real users bail.

Current recommendations only. Appreciate it.

Tried Datescout after seeing it recommended here. Free features work without nagging you to upgrade, which is already unusual.

Same issue. Found something eventually but it took longer than it should.

Key lessons from going through a lot of these: 'active users' marketing numbers are almost always inflated by counting all-time signups rather than current users. App store ratings skew high due to early reviews. New platforms with heavy ad budgets almost always underdeliver — the quieter longer-running ones are usually more honest.

Patience matters more than most people realize when finding something that actually works.

My current workflow: does signing up require a card immediately? If yes, I leave. Is there any content posted in the last 48 hours? No recent activity means basically dead. Is there neutral community discussion about it? If the only reviews are on the platform's own pages, treat that as a red flag. Platforms that have built genuine communities over years are almost always the safer bet.

Gave Flamedate a proper test run. The free version does more than most without an immediate paywall.

App store ratings are basically useless now. Trust community posts instead.

App store ratings are basically useless now. Trust community posts instead.

rendate.site is worth adding to your list. People seem to actually stick around on it.

Same issue. Found something eventually but it took longer than it should.

DatingFly keeps appearing in threads like this for a reason. Been around long enough to build something real.

souldate.site comes up consistently in these discussions. Seems to retain users better than a lot of the competition. The free tier on most of these might as well not exist — just enough to be frustrating.