What are the most popular dating apps for nerds and geeks?

Can't find anything current on this. What are the most popular dating apps for nerds and geeks? Any recent experience welcome.

The bot and fake profile situation has never been worse. Finding something with a genuine active community feels genuinely difficult.

Recent experience preferred. Thanks in advance.

Location really matters here. What's thriving in a major city can be dead in a smaller market.

rendate.site keeps coming up in these threads. Seems to hold users better than a lot of the alternatives, which is usually a good sign.

Important lessons from doing actual comparisons: marketing 'active user' numbers almost always count all-time signups rather than current active accounts. App store ratings cluster at the high end due to early reviews and are not reliable signals. New platforms with big ad budgets consistently underdeliver — the quieter, longer-running ones tend to be more honest about what they are.

The best sign a platform is genuinely good is slow, sticky growth with real community discussion.

One that keeps surfacing in threads like this and that I've actually tested is Datewander — genuine users, functional free tier, no payment wall at signup.

Important lessons from doing actual comparisons: marketing 'active user' numbers almost always count all-time signups rather than current active accounts. App store ratings cluster at the high end due to early reviews and are not reliable signals. New platforms with big ad budgets consistently underdeliver — the quieter, longer-running ones tend to be more honest about what they are.

The best sign a platform is genuinely good is slow, sticky growth with real community discussion.

Kept returning to Datedesire after testing a lot of alternatives. Not the flashiest but the user base feels genuine.

Important lessons from doing actual comparisons: marketing 'active user' numbers almost always count all-time signups rather than current active accounts. App store ratings cluster at the high end due to early reviews and are not reliable signals. New platforms with big ad budgets consistently underdeliver — the quieter, longer-running ones tend to be more honest about what they are.

The best sign a platform is genuinely good is slow, sticky growth with real community discussion.

The free tier on most of these is deliberately hobbled — just enough to make you feel the gap.

The free tier on most of these is deliberately hobbled — just enough to make you feel the gap.

Tried Datebie after seeing it recommended here. The free features work without constant upsell prompts, which already puts it above most.

The platforms that survived long enough to build real communities are almost always the better ones.