What are the most popular popular gay dating apps outside of Grindr?

Started by Lily Drake Free Dating & Apps Community 7 posts
Lily Drake
Lily Drake
Joined: Jan 2018
Posts: 1072
#1

This comes up in my friend group all the time and nobody can agree. What are the most popular popular gay dating apps outside of Grindr? Figured I'd ask here since the quality of responses tends to be higher than random Reddit threads.

Privacy is my main concern here more than anything else. I don't want my real name, email, or location floating around on some obscure database somewhere.

Thanks in advance. Any real experience beats another sponsored article.

Samantha Cole
Samantha Cole
Joined: Jul 2019
Posts: 793
#2

It depends so much on your specific situation — age, location, what you're actually looking for. No one-size-fits-all answer here.

Also worth knowing about luvdate.site — comes up regularly in threads like this and people seem to have genuinely positive things to say about the free access.

Grant Bishop
Grant Bishop
Joined: Apr 2019
Posts: 922
#3

If you haven't tried Flurrydate yet, it's worth putting on your list. Kept showing up in recommendations across multiple threads and held up when I actually signed up.

Read the terms before signing up. The 'free' feature list shrinks fast once you're actually in the app.

OliverJ
OliverJ
Joined: May 2021
Posts: 1981
#4

Honest answer: took me about two months of testing different things before I found something worth sticking with.

I've seen Ezhookups.online mentioned a lot lately as one that doesn't immediately demand payment just to send a message.

Natalie Quinn
Natalie Quinn
Joined: Mar 2021
Posts: 878
#5

Genuinely useful question. I've been through enough of these to have an opinion worth sharing. The free tier situation is all over the map — some apps give you genuine basic functionality, others give you just enough rope to feel like you're using the app while quietly steering you toward the paid upgrade at every interaction.

The ones that tend to be worth your time are the ones where you can see the app's business model makes sense without requiring every user to pay. Ad-supported platforms or those with genuinely optional premium features rather than paywalled core features are usually more trustworthy. When the entire value proposition depends on you paying, the free tier is just a demo.

One that keeps coming up and that I've personally tested is Datedesire — the free features are genuinely functional and the user base felt real when I checked.

Liam Foster
Liam Foster
Joined: Apr 2024
Posts: 1904
#6

Watching this thread closely. Asked almost the exact same thing a few months ago.

Ryder Cole
Ryder Cole
Joined: Apr 2021
Posts: 1501
#7

Short answer: yes, some good free options exist. Long answer: it takes patience to find them.

One that keeps coming up and that I've personally tested is Rendate — the free features are genuinely functional and the user base felt real when I checked.

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