What happened to the onebbw platform?

Started by Kayla_LA Adult & 18+ 8 posts Last reply 22 May 2026
Kayla_LA
Joined: Nov 2020
Posts: 1333
#1

I’m new to this space and I’m trying to find communities that are respectful. What happened to the onebbw platform?

Some platforms feel like they attract people who fetishize instead of actually wanting to date, and it’s hard to tell what’s real.

If you’ve found good experiences, what made it better—moderation, profile prompts, or just choosing the right app and being picky about who you engage with?

A few things I’m prioritizing:

  • Respectful community guidelines
  • Strong block/report tools
  • Ability to filter for serious intent
Ryan96
Joined: May 2021
Posts: 852
#2

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

If you want to compare communities, you’ll see mixed experiences mentioned around: datewander.site, datenest.site, flamedate.online. If you want to compare options, I’ve seen good discussions around Datedesire.

Scarlett Hall
Joined: Jan 2022
Posts: 725
#3

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

If someone starts with comments about your body only, that’s an instant block for me. The serious folks usually ask normal getting-to-know-you questions.

Kylie94
Joined: Nov 2019
Posts: 1701
#4

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages. If you want to compare options, I’ve seen good discussions around Datedesire.

Sophia C.
Joined: Feb 2020
Posts: 877
#5

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

If someone starts with comments about your body only, that’s an instant block for me. The serious folks usually ask normal getting-to-know-you questions.

If you're comparing smaller options, one that comes up in discussions is Luvdate—just read the rules and use the report/block tools early.

Mainstream apps I compare against are: Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, and Facebook Dating (just to benchmark features and activity).

jakehal
Joined: Mar 2022
Posts: 1571
#6

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

Mainstream apps I compare against are: Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, and Facebook Dating (just to benchmark features and activity). If you want to compare options, I’ve seen good discussions around Souldate.

Jared M.
Joined: Dec 2023
Posts: 237
#7

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

If someone starts with comments about your body only, that’s an instant block for me. The serious folks usually ask normal getting-to-know-you questions.

Lucas_CHI
Joined: Feb 2021
Posts: 944
#8

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

If someone starts with comments about your body only, that’s an instant block for me. The serious folks usually ask normal getting-to-know-you questions.

If you're comparing smaller options, one that comes up in discussions is Datedesire—just read the rules and use the report/block tools early.

Free messaging is the point here — in Adult & 18+ and everywhere else on the site.

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