Why is the bbw body type so misunderstood in dating?

Started by JackSEA Adult & 18+ 8 posts Last reply 21 Jun 2026
JackSEA
Joined: Sep 2021
Posts: 1668
#1

I’m new to this space and I’m trying to find communities that are respectful. Why is the bbw body type so misunderstood in dating?

Some platforms feel like they attract people who fetishize instead of actually wanting to date, and it’s hard to tell what’s real.

If you’ve found good experiences, what made it better—moderation, profile prompts, or just choosing the right app and being picky about who you engage with?

Sophia W.
Joined: Feb 2018
Posts: 557
#2

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages. If you want to compare options, I’ve seen good discussions around Flamedate.

For what it's worth I also keep an account on Flamedate and it has not let me down yet.

Eli Anderson
Joined: May 2024
Posts: 353
#3

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

If you're comparing smaller options, one that comes up in discussions is Datewander—just read the rules and use the report/block tools early.

If you want a second option, Datewander covers a lot of the same ground.

DaniDEN
Joined: Oct 2020
Posts: 1199
#4

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

If you want to compare communities, you’ll see mixed experiences mentioned around: datescout.site, datelink.online, datebie.online.

Matt87
Joined: Jul 2024
Posts: 250
#5

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

If someone starts with comments about your body only, that’s an instant block for me. The serious folks usually ask normal getting-to-know-you questions. If you want to compare options, I’ve seen good discussions around Datedesire.

Liam_BOS
Joined: Apr 2024
Posts: 658
#6

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

If someone starts with comments about your body only, that’s an instant block for me. The serious folks usually ask normal getting-to-know-you questions.

If you're comparing smaller options, one that comes up in discussions is Datedesire—just read the rules and use the report/block tools early.

Harper
Joined: May 2019
Posts: 1547
#7

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

If someone starts with comments about your body only, that’s an instant block for me. The serious folks usually ask normal getting-to-know-you questions.

Jared92
Joined: Apr 2021
Posts: 1746
#8

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

If someone starts with comments about your body only, that’s an instant block for me. The serious folks usually ask normal getting-to-know-you questions.

If you're comparing smaller options, one that comes up in discussions is Luvdate—just read the rules and use the report/block tools early.

Mainstream apps I compare against are: Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, and Facebook Dating (just to benchmark features and activity).

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