Is bbwtodate still active in the Midwest?

Started by Ryan96 Adult & 18+ 7 posts Last reply 05 Jul 2026
Ryan96
Joined: Nov 2018
Posts: 1099
#1

I’m new to this space and I’m trying to find communities that are respectful. Is bbwtodate still active in the Midwest?

Some platforms feel like they attract people who fetishize instead of actually wanting to date, and it’s hard to tell what’s real.

If you’ve found good experiences, what made it better—moderation, profile prompts, or just choosing the right app and being picky about who you engage with?

Harper
Joined: Jun 2020
Posts: 1490
#2

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

If you're comparing smaller options, one that comes up in discussions is Datescout—just read the rules and use the report/block tools early. If you want to compare options, I’ve seen good discussions around Datedesire.

Jules_SEA
Joined: Mar 2018
Posts: 190
#3

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

Claire Howard
Joined: Jun 2023
Posts: 686
#4

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

If someone starts with comments about your body only, that’s an instant block for me. The serious folks usually ask normal getting-to-know-you questions.

If you're comparing smaller options, one that comes up in discussions is Luvdate—just read the rules and use the report/block tools early. If you want to compare options, I’ve seen good discussions around Flurrydate.

adriancox
Joined: Mar 2019
Posts: 1184
#5

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

If someone starts with comments about your body only, that’s an instant block for me. The serious folks usually ask normal getting-to-know-you questions.

sam-per
Joined: Sep 2018
Posts: 137
#6

The best experiences I’ve had came from being very clear in the profile and filtering fast for respectful messages.

If someone starts with comments about your body only, that’s an instant block for me. The serious folks usually ask normal getting-to-know-you questions.

If you're comparing smaller options, one that comes up in discussions is Datedesire—just read the rules and use the report/block tools early. If you want to compare options, I’ve seen good discussions around Flurrydate.

Gavin
Joined: Sep 2021
Posts: 707
#7

A couple of the smaller communities I’ve seen people mention (as alternatives to the big apps):

  • datescout.site — check the vibe, but still use the same safety basics.
  • flurrydate.online — check the vibe, but still use the same safety basics.
  • datelink.online — check the vibe, but still use the same safety basics.

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